The Loneliness of Hira Barua - Aruna Patangia Kalita

Fiction

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I have a weakness for short stories. This was a compilation of such short stories that was recommended to me from a few different places. Also a Sahitya Akademi Award winner. Ahem. 

I believe that books from different places come with inherent unique tones based on the exprience of the broad population. The smaller and more niche the population, the more these characteristics will stand out. I've discussed a book I read from Manipur (excellent read by the way!) and without planning it, I've ended up with a book of Assamese stories. Well. That certainly was a shocker in a delightful way. 

It was quite difficult for me to fully understand and appreciate the background that went into developing these stories. I have never lived anywhere with political insurgents, nor any of the other atrocities that went into developing the mindset in some of these stories. They are honest, if nothing else. The truth of the situation is laid bare. Not always explicitly, but subtly and well explained. 

This isn't a light Sunday afternoon read. It's one that must be thought through and appreciated. The final story is about a person - Hira Barua - who is the book's namesake. It's a longer story and makes you truly think about people who have no one else who are left behind in life. 

It's not your average everyday book of happy ending stories. But well worth the read!

~Becky~

Quit Like a Woman - Holly Whitaker

Non-Fiction

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I had read recommendations about this book from a few places (hello pinterest!) but picked this one up as the subject matter is very personal for me. 

This is an autobiographical type book from Holly Whitaker. She takes us slowly (and sometimes multiple times) through her journey and struggle with Alcohol dependence.  She takes on the patriarchal use of alcohol, how media affects our judgment on seeing alcohol as normal, and the good and bad bits about AA. I found many of the authoress's ideas to be phenominally simple, yet very important. Kind of like obvious things that you should ideally be able to see easily, but don't until someone points them out.

I never thought of Alcohol as a tool of the patriarchy - or a tool of the capitalist market too. Holly makes a point that after a certain point, it made sense to market heavily to women because that's where the market growth was possible. I couldn't agree more. As women, we've also been sold the fallacy that in order to suceed, we need to play like the boys. Cuss, drink whiskey, and not have feelings. Now....there's nothing wrong with any of those things (except maybe the feelings thing - psychopath!) but not only do they not need to be attributed to men, women don't need them to be sucessful, nor do they need to be men in order to get places. 

Holly Whitaker also takes people through the fallacy that AA is the only way to stop drinking. I didn't have much exposure to AA before now - although I was taught this is the holy grail of detox as well - and it's refreshing to hear that there are other options. As an atheist, bringing god into the mix as necessary to get rid of a drinking problem horrified me. She also went into depth about the feelings that people have when they're not sure they drink too much and how they use different metrics to either decide they are fine or lable themselves as alcoholics.

The uses of such lables also was an interesting thought exercise for me. I'm not a big fan of lables, especially those that are closely tied with people's identity.

As I mentioned early, Holly tends to repeat points. It's a common thing as I understand when an author is discussing something close to their heart. It does get a bit tedious though.  With all the hullabaloo about AA not being the answer and Holly hinting that quitting was simple....she provided very little insight into this.  To be honest this was expected from my end, but you can't take away the main point of hope for people then not offer an alternative.

I've had a long and complicated history with alcohol as well. Perhaps not so rough as Holly's, but long and complicated none the less. I still have to make a decision every once in a while not to drink. Of all the complicated relationships I've ever been in, this one is by far the most difficult to deal with and I appreciated the thought and encouragment that the author put into this book. I hope many more people read it, especially the ones who need to read it most.  I'd encourage you to read it, even if you don't have (or suspect you have) a drinking problem. It will help you re-evaluate your relationship with alcohol and the motivations and factors that can go into drinking.

~Becky~

A Plate of White Marble - Bani Basu

Fiction

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This is the first book that I've ready by Bani Basi. In a change of pace, this was a book I ordered because it was recommended, rather than just picking it up because it had a pretty cover. Progress. 

The story covers the life of Bandana. She is a newly made widow with a young son. The first half of the story or so covers Bandana's life after her husband dies. She is still in her inlaws house and slowly backed into a very restrictive corner of shoulds and should nots. However weak, Bandana is a bit of an odd rebel. So much so that I very much felt like cheering her on. 

The second half of the book is Bandana's life after her uncle takes her out of her inlaws house. He urges her to be independent, get a job, let go of old superstitions, etc. Bandana does try her best and makes small leaps, In the end, she crumbles to pressure from her son and inlaws. It's ridiculousy disapointing, but also ridiculously realistic. You can't hate Bandana for her weakness because she truly tries, but there's a limit to what one can do.

The treatment of widows in a conservative society in India is not a new subject. It's rather horrifying on the whole. The beauty of A Plate of White Marble is that Bani Basu does a brilliant job of highlighting a situation that isn't horrific on the surface, but is still resulting in the slow death of someone the family is proported to love. Her heroine also is relateable. She's not perfect and doesn't magically throw off the chains of tradition and superstition all of a sudden one day - she takes small steps where she can. The authoress also brilliantly highlights how sometimes behaviors are so conditioned that women don't have to be held back - they do it themselves because they have been taught that's right. 

I guess I should mention that this isn't a feminism book, even though I felt the small steps that Bandana takes are important ones - and would be even more so if she continued taking those steps and taught her children the same. What was valuable to her generation isn't even recognized in her son's generation and finding a balance is difficult for her.

The novel does drag in places, and like many Bengali works, has a tendancy to be rather morose. I kept waiting for a few shoes to drop and things to turn really tragic. But the beauty of Bengali writing of this type is that tragedy happens quietly. A few small incidents at a time.

It's worth reading. Take it slow and absorb the ethos.

~Becky~

India's Bravehearts - Lt Gen Satish Dua

NonFiction

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I'm not usually a fan of military novels or biographies. To be quite honest, I can't remember why I picked this book up. However, not sorry I did.

At least for the course of this memoire, Lt Gen Satish Dua came across as a man with a glass of whiskey and some fond stories to tell. It didn't come across as cramming the military down readers throats, which is one reason I thoroughly enjoyed it. I found his insights interesting after going through some very tough situations. I've seen the movie Uri and he describes what it was like to react to such a situation, as well as tactical necessities to answer it. 

It's a light and pleasant read. I'll never be a fan of military books, but this one is a good read.

Read it!

~Becky~

Mr. Iyer Goes to War - Ryan Lobo

Fiction

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This is the first book I've ready by Ryan Lobo. I definitely am looking forward to reading further ones.

This novel is about a South Indian Brahmin who has been sent to Banares to die. It's never clear why nor what's wrong with him - aside that perhaps his family didn't want to care for him anymore. Until the end of the novel, he never seems sick, aside from age related aches and pains. Mr. Iyer goes on a few grand adventures throughout the novel with his friend and faithful sidekick Bencho. I particularly liked Bencho's character and read it as Bhenchod every single time. I'm not sure if that was the author's intent, but it was amusing. Why Mr. Iyer and Bencho go on adventures isn't really clearly explained either. Either he  actually believes he is Bheem out to vanquish Bakasura, or he has dementia. It's not really made clear. The interesting thing about Mr. Iyer is that he seems perfectly lucid and well spoken, except for this one thing. Draw your own conclusions. Iyer and Bencho have run ins with many folks through this religious lense of vanquishing evil, and have the crazy luck that only the genious or insane can boast. It's truly amusing watching Iyer go to war and get through every situation he faces.

Lobo does a brilliant job of pacing and raising the intensity as the book progresses. He also made Mr. Iyer a character you want to cheer for. He's cranky, old, judgy, and annoying. But you like him. Even after you find out that he was an alcoholic and crazy. The book indulges in a wild Philosophical run at the end and in his fevered state, Iyer explains to his love interest that all of the relationships he has now, he has had in many past lives. He finally seems at peace with himself. The characters around him enrich the story. I especially like the landlord character. He's a charicature of landlords of this type, but so well executed it's brilliant.

Another great part of this book is the Banares culture that is going on in the background, juxtaposed by a stereotyped South Indian Brahmin. Who becomes good friends with a low caste cremator and general scamster. It's a whirlwind to read adn take in all the details. 

Read it!

~Becky~

The Unseeing Idol of Light - K.R. Meera

 Fiction

Verdict: Read it for the ending

Finally, a novel in which I have heard of the authoress before! I wrote a blog on Hangwoman before and it is a masterpiece. This novel is quite a different story. I won't say it's bad, but it's definitely a different flavor.

The protagonist of Meera's story is a blind man named Prakash. He's accepted his condition and developed his senses so much that people forget he's blind and that he's more capable at "seeing" than people who actually have vision. He is searching for his wife that disappeared long ago but still lives on as a specter in his mind. His best friend acts as his sidekick in his searches and Prakash has another relationship that he flirts with as he looks. They do find a woman who fits the wife's description, unfortunately, her mental state is not one that allows her to deny or confirm she was his wife. Different people decided that she was or wasn't Deepthi. Her father wants it to be her so badly that he denies reality to insist she is. But Prakash knows it isn't his wife and doesn't let anyone talk him into accepting it just to soothe his need.

The ending isn't all that satisfying in a way that everything is neatly tied up. Prakash ends up searching for the woman in his new relationship. You do eventually find out where Deepthi has been all these years. I won't say it's satisfying, but it does make sense. 

I found the persistant references to blindness, being blind, and being able to use other senses a bit overdone. I'm guessing the authoress either did a lot of research or knew someone who was blind and was attempting to make the reader understand.

KR Meera is an author to be reckoned with. She absolutely knows how to pull her audience in and create a scene. 

Read it!

~Becky~

Lattitudes of Longing - Shubhangi Swarup

 Fiction

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This is the first novel I've ready by Shubhangi Swarup. If we're being honest, which we indeed are, This was another one of those books that I picked up because the cover is beautifully done. 

Lattitudes of Longing is a series of stories that have characters that are interconnected. There's not too much focus on this, but one story blends into the next this way. It's very artfully done. The authoress takes us across India, from Islands in the south that are very tropical, to the mountains in the north, to the plains. Through a variety of customs, cultures, and feelings. 

It took me a while to understand this book. I certainly didn't when I was reading it. While reading it, I got the feeling that I was watching these stories from a distance. There's no intensity, no surprises, no reality. It's all very fuzzy around the edges, just like a dream. I don't mean that as a criticism, it's simply the feeling that I got while reading it. It's actually a hard book to describe well - so just go read it.

~Becky~